Dialectic Thinking: The Secret to Exceptional Mindful Leadership

BL00 - Dialectic Thinking The Secret Sauce of Exceptional Mindful Leadership

By Mo Edjlali

I always thought that I needed to go for what I considered the middle path, the “gray” but I was wrong. We, humans, are biologically wired for binary thinking, naturally leaning towards 'either-or' perspectives, thinking black or white.  So I came up with a mantra to “think gray”.  The problem is when you think gray you lose the power of what is in the white and what is in the black and end up with passionless mediocrity. Worse yet you might oscillate between the two and feel at constant odds.  

In the last couple of years, I have been fascinated by the idea of paradox and what it means in my own development, and what it means to leadership.  In this article, we delve into the idea of dialectic, thinking. Dialectic thinking is a method of reasoning and analysis that involves examining and reconciling opposing or contradictory ideas or perspectives. It is rooted in the philosophical tradition of dialectics, which dates back to ancient Greece and has been developed by various philosophers throughout history.

At its core, dialectic thinking recognizes that reality is complex and multifaceted and that many phenomena or concepts can contain inherent contradictions or tensions. Instead of seeing contradictions as mere conflicts to be resolved or ignored, dialectic thinking seeks to understand and integrate these opposing elements to arrive at a deeper and more comprehensive understanding of a given subject.

A wonderful visual example that I came across that I thought best illustrated this was a checkered plaid pattern like a chess board. In the context of dialectic thinking, something isn't just black, white, or gray; it is both black AND white.  Every square, be it black or white, retains its individuality, each possessing its unique value. These squares coexist, maintaining their distinct color while cohabiting with their antithesis. This is the essence of dialectic thinking - juxtaposing opposites, recognizing and valuing each for its distinctive worth. The concept may be simple, but it's extraordinarily challenging to put to practice. Why is that so?

We are primitively wired to think in black and white.  And it's not just about our natural inclinations. The socio-political environment we live in also plays a significant role. Consider the current state of politics. Polarization seems to be at an all-time high, with contrasting views becoming more rigid and less open to constructive dialogue. Similarly, social media and technology platforms, through their algorithms, tend to strengthen our biases, narrowing our viewpoints and dividing us further. Our capitalist system, too, often rewards stark positions and competition, intensifying the drift toward polarization and away from dialectic thinking.

However, the pressing question is, can we resist these influences? How can we epitomize the antithesis of polarization in our being, our thinking, and our leadership? Can we navigate through these intricacies and embrace dialectic thinking for a more nuanced understanding of the world? It's not easy, almost like counteracting a gravitational pull, but the most exceptional leaders have mastered this and I believe it’s worth the effort. By adopting dialectic thinking, we can transcend our limitations and achieve more than we ever thought we could.  In some sense, it's the secret sauce of leadership that goes unspoken.

Neuroscience of Dialectic Thinking

Binary thinking is like our brain's autopilot mode. It stems from the most primitive part of our brain, the basal ganglia, which keeps us safe by categorizing things simply: safe or risky, friend or enemy, right or wrong. This is the same part of our brain that triggers our fight-or-flight responses. And thanks to neuroplasticity - the brain's ability to form and reinforce neural pathways based on our thoughts and behaviors - the more we use binary thinking, the more we're likely to keep using it.

But, our brains are also capable of nuanced thinking. The prefrontal cortex, the area responsible for our complex decision-making and problem-solving abilities, can help us override our tendency for binary thinking. This allows us to approach situations with more complexity and subtlety. It does require a bit more mental energy and conscious effort, but with practice, we can become more comfortable with this kind of dialectic thinking. In essence, our brains may be wired for binary thinking, but they also have the capacity for much more.  It is possible to overcome a polarized way of being and thinking, however, it will take practice. 

The most difficult Paradox 

The paradox of acceptance and change may very well be the toughest one we grapple with. Whether this is in our own meditation practice and self-development, or leading an organization it’s vital to take a dialectic approach.  For genuine change to occur, there must first be acceptance of the current state. This acceptance forms the bedrock of reality, a foundation that is crucial for creating meaningful change. It's a truth that can't be obscured or sugarcoated. With acceptance, there's an opportunity to see things as they are and then to envisage something different.

However, we can often misconstrue acceptance as passivity or complacency. It can be seen as an excuse to “do nothing”, to shy away from bold action, or to remain comfortably entrenched in the status quo. On the flip side, a relentless push for change can create a sense of perpetual dissatisfaction, hindering our ability to appreciate what already is. This can also foster a short-term, transactional mindset, particularly in relationships.

I recall an insightful interview with Microsoft's CEO, Satya Nadella, where he reflected on his initial years succeeding the previous CEO Steve Ballmer. At the time, Microsoft was trailing in innovation and had hit a plateau, while competitors like Google were surging forward. Nadella was charged with the formidable task of transforming the deeply ingrained culture of one of the world's largest and most successful organizations. The intricacies he must have faced are beyond my comprehension. However, one thing he shared in the interview resonated deeply with me. He acknowledged the tension between Microsoft's present state and his vision for its future. Embracing this tension and working with it in a positive way became a pivotal part of his leadership approach and his extraordinary success.  

To give it a more personal tone - In essence, you are good enough (acceptance), AND, you can also be better. (action/change)

This paradox manifests in various forms which we might explore in further articles:

  • Being vs. Doing/ Striving
  • Progressive vs. Conservative
  • Traditional vs. Innovative

Recognizing and embracing these opposites with dialectic thinking can amplify your leadership skills, and your comprehension of the world, imbue you with internal peace, and equip you to effectively take on challenges and guide others.

5 Tips on Navigating this Paradox with a Dialectic Approach

In navigating the paradox of acceptance and change as a mindful leader, it's important to have practical strategies in your toolkit. These tips, grounded in the principles of dialectic thinking, are designed to help you balance the delicate dance between embracing the current reality and driving meaningful change. By applying them in your leadership journey, you can foster an environment that respects the present while eagerly shaping the future. Remember, it's not about choosing one over the other; it's about harmoniously integrating both. Let's explore how to put this into practice.

  1. Embrace the Paradox: Understand that change and acceptance aren't mutually exclusive but are, in reality, essential counterparts in the leadership process. By acknowledging this paradox, you're accepting the current reality while simultaneously recognizing the necessity for enhancement or evolution
  2. Envision the Present and the Future: Formulate a precise mental picture of your organization's current state – this constitutes the acceptance component. Concurrently, visualize the future you aspire to manifest – this represents the change. Maintain both images in your mind as you lead, recognizing that one cannot exist without the other.
  3. Promote Transparent Communication: Effectively convey your acceptance of the current state and your ambition for change. This involves recognizing the strengths and weaknesses of the present and outlining your blueprint for improvement. Such an approach maintains equilibrium between the 'here and now' and the 'potential future,' reinforcing the dialectic perspective within your team.
  4. Foster Inclusive Participation: Allow your team the latitude to articulate their comprehension and acceptance of the present situation alongside their proposals for change. This inclusive method empowers them to contribute to the process and acknowledges the equilibrium between acceptance and change.
  5. Celebrate the Present and the Prospective: Along your journey, make a point to commend current achievements, which stem from accepting and operating within your present reality. Similarly, celebrate strides towards your future vision, representing the aspect of change. This dual celebration underscores the co-existence of acceptance and change and keeps your team inspired.

By embedding the dialectic of acceptance and change into your leadership approach, you're nurturing a more mindful, resilient, and dynamic team culture. This equilibrium aids in circumnavigating obstacles and spurs growth, resulting in a more harmonious and efficient workspace.

Final Thoughts

Embarking on the journey to master dialectic thinking is a rewarding venture. As we've seen, this approach offers significant benefits. It can amplify our leadership capabilities, deepen our comprehension of the world, and arm us with the tools to gracefully and wisely navigate challenges. It's not a straightforward path, requiring consistent practice and a conscious shift against our innate tendencies, societal pulls, and technological influences pushing toward polarization. Yet, it's necessary for us as individuals, for the teams and organizations we influence, and for the broader benefit of humanity.

We've only just begun to uncover the many layers of this captivating topic. The domains of dialectic thinking and mindful leadership hold a plethora of insights yet to be explored. In the meantime, I encourage you to reflect on your personal encounters with the paradox of acceptance and change. How have you maneuvered these intricacies in your personal or professional life? How do you handle paradoxes and utilize dialectical thinking? 

Keep an eye out for more explorations into the world of dialectic thinking and mindful leadership. Collectively, we can challenge our binary predispositions, embrace the multifaceted nature of paradox, and evolve into more effective, thoughtful leaders. Our journey is far from over, and I'm excited to continue it with you!

14 comments

Rebecca
 

Hi Mo. I’m right on board with paradox and it’s power for transformation. Secret sauce YES! But I am exploring in realm of dance, movement, integrating sense of self, holding paradox and opening richer fuller ways of being. Many metaphors but easy one is riding a bike: You Tip right and left to find balance then when that becomes steady, the road opens up before you. Or right eye and left eye have slightly different 2D views but put them together and voila: a three Dimensional world you can walk into. Or integrating public self with private self and becoming fuller more alive.  

Movement in body happens because of physical paradox:  strength and flexibility, mobility and stability, and agility is the skill won through practice of being able to play back and forth. 

Huge fascinating topic. Asian philosophies have it perfectly symbolized in yin/yang. 

I am exploring ways for people to handle polarities through play and movement, dance, meditation. These modalities are juicy and a lot quicker and cheaper then 17 years on the couch with talk therapy. 

My teachers have been Gregory Bateson, Ken Wilber, Taoism, Zen, etc. Bateson repeated constantly three basic ideas: 1. The map is not the territory ( Korzybsky) 2. Information is difference  and 3. Profund wisdom in parable of blind men and the elephant- the paradox of parts and wholes . 

Anyhow thanks for your article on this great topic. I will look for more of your work. 

Rebecca


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Anita Barbero
 

I have enjoyed reading MO's article, so very thought provoking and then your response Rebecca, what you are doing with dance and movement for richer ways of being. Truly fascinating. I am a yoga-dance and meditation teacher for 27 years appreciating so much the integration of all the polarities that go into our practices for a more wholesome experience. Thank you for sharing. Keep exploring!

Anita

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Mo Edjlali
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Thank you Rebecca for your thoughtful comment and for sharing your exploration of paradoxes through dance, movement, and meditation. Your examples, such as balance in bike riding and the creation of 3D perception, beautifully illustrate the transformative power of embracing paradoxes. I'm inspired by your approach to handling polarities through embodied practices, and I appreciate your references to influential thinkers. Your insights enrich our understanding of this fascinating topic, and I'm looking forward to continuing the conversation!

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Don
 

I’ve enjoyed reading the article on paradox, dialectical tensions, and equilibrium. I would like to make a distinction, however, regarding paradox versus polarities. While acceptance in change may appear to be polar opposites of one another the equilibrium of what you speak is that the meaning of one is in better than the other. The example of a checkerboard suffices as far as it goes, however, a true paradox is when there is a conflict of member in class not a polarities. Classic paradoxes are I would never join any organization that would have me as one of its members. Or it’s gift wrapping a present able to be given as a gift itself? Inherent paradox is an inherent conflict , which is where the dialectical tensions stems from, and this is not from polarities! Ironically or paradoxically, the very active acceptance isn’t itself, conflicting and paradoxical in that it instigates change through acceptance. Example, someone who says you can’t tell me what to do and the response can be , then don’t do what I tell you to do do what you tell you to do. Simultaneously that is both acceptance and change in that. How does one resist the permission to resist?! My only point is that true dialectical thinking, and resolution between present state and desired state, is the recognize the paradoxical nature  within each state simultaneously. Acknowledging the present state of a company or corporation and identifying what needs to evolve into future prospects presents polarization, but not paradox! Inherently, accepting what does it need to be changed is a change in itself paradoxically speaker and moves a company forward viewing what future changes are idealized helps identify resources that are already present or embedded in the company that could be updated. A metaphor for what I am speaking is, I believe more appropriately associated with Russian dolls where one is nested inside of the other. The more we delve into the intricacies of polarities we discover paradoxes, which are the mechanisms and dynamism‘s that facilitate higher integrations of three dimensional perception. Perceiving with the left or right eye, only, creates a skewed image. Seeing with both eyes together is not additive, but integrative and that we’re not simply adding one image to another, rather than the brain injury rates in a modular process for multiple points of view at the same time paradoxically creating depth perception. The depth perception is multi dimensional, utilizing different frames of reference, which helps resolve paradoxes that are inherent and polarities. The point here is that while on a chessboard, there are definitely black-and-white, squares, there are no clear boundaries only apparent phasing in and out of dimensions, which is more like an Esher painting where fish and bird images gradually fade in and out to each other, depending on their asymmetry of nearness, or farness, to one another, thereby shifting or phasing into each other’s image. On chessboards, black, squares, and white squares are comfortably adjacent to one another. In paradoxical chessboards, black and white squares are each composed of white and black squares when seen on a continuum of phase states! Quantum computers are capable of multiple phase states where zero and one coexist simultaneously, as each is composed of the other. Acceptance is change, and change is acceptance, and the more things change, the more they stay “similar” like a family of change similar but different! “Seize the day” which is paradoxical!

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Mo Edjlali
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Don, great comments appreciate your contribution to the conversation!  This differentiation of polarities, paradox, and the left/right eye example is are all fascinating.  Some of your other comments are a little harder for me to follow but they have me thinking. I imagine there are many mathematicians and philosophers who in addition to psychologists have explored this in-depth!

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Don
 

I need to make a brief correction in the wording of my Commentary. It should read, “the meaning of one is embedded in the other” which is in the second sentence of a commentary. Thanks!

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Cliff
 

What a great discussion. Barry Johnson and Polarity Partnerships has been focused on this topic of polarity/paradox for a half-century. There are many useful resources for leaders, teams and organizations. www.polaritypartnerships.com 

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Mo Edjlali
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Cliff thanks for sharing the link - at a glance, I appreciate what they are doing and the simplicity and practicality in how they are presenting common business polarities. 

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Anita Barbero
 

Gosh Moe, what a mindful and very thought provoking article for me since I never really paid attention to dialectic thinking.  I will definitely explore the topic more, particularly as it relates to mindful leadership, 'respecting the present while eagerly shaping the future'...I love that. Thanks for opening the conversation, great feedback and more for exploration.

Anita

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Mo Edjlali
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@Anita Barbero thanks for your comments, this has been a fascinating exploration for me too! 

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Michael Davis
 

Just a brief comment from someone who works in a hospital: The sine wave - representing the electrical potential of the energy that drives the heart - always makes me happy. It’s the constant fluctuations between positive and negative that keeps us alive. Of course,  that doesn’t mean that either is truly positive or negative in any moral sense. Just in potential energy. 

Also, the source of the quote toward the beginning of the article? 

Thanks for making us 🤔!



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Julia Wilson
 

Such a thought-provoking article, Mo, thank you! What it brought to mind for me was some of Parker Palmer's thinking and writing about holding paradoxes - the willingness to live in the chasm between what is and what we hope might be.  He writes in the book "A Hidden Wholeness" about the paradox of "being alone in community" - which reminds me of what we do in group meditation (like Meditate Together). We are alone in our individual experience in meditation while also being present to each other, together in community - what a beautiful paradox!

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priya
 

I also appreciate how you’ve structured the post. The introduction grabbed my attention, and the flow from one section to the next is seamless. Your writing style is engaging and easy to follow, making it a pleasure to read through the entire article.
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Caroline Thibaudeau
 

Thank you Mo for the thought-provoking article. I am totally enjoying how it enables one to hold the complexities and paradoxes without trading and bartering, rather DT makes things whole.  What strikes me now is that there are essential competencies and skills that one needs to hone to work in this space called Dialectic Thinking.  I am influenced by the Pearl Teachings of the Diamond Approach when I share that I feel one needs to have an embodied presence and essence to be in the posture of promoting Dialectic Thinking for one to be able to work with the complexities and also their structures and biases.  To me, DT feels like a transformative process that at its basis is our ability for relatedness.  Furthermore, I feel it is a state of functioning guided by inner freedom from reactivity, by humanness, and full of energetic openness.  With gratitude MO

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